Do you feel disappointed or unhappy with your body? Do you hate how it looks (or parts of it)? Does your inner mean girl speak up on a regular basis, filling your mind with negative, body shaming thoughts?
I did too. I would look at my body in the mirror, and instantly feel deflated. I would eat all the ‘right’ things, exercise hours a day, took diet pills…I even got down to my “ideal weight”…but nothing changed how I felt about my body or myself.
I tried to fix my unhappiness with my body the way most people do: by focusing on fixing the symptom = what my body looked like.
It didn’t end up working because I wasn’t focused on the right thing: the root cause.
By identifying the root cause of your unhappiness with your body, you can start to make a shift. That shift will spark changes in your mind, body, and habits you might not have thought were possible!
External Influences & Standards
Disappointment or hate toward your body can stem from comparing yourself to something externally, or some standard you have set for yourself. If you grew up on a desert island and the only body you saw was yours, you had no influence by the media, society, or anyone/thing – you wouldn’t think twice about what your body looked like!
Babies aren’t self-conscious about their chubby bellies or leg rolls, and we don’t love them any less because of it. It’s a learned mindset, it’s a learned ‘standard,’ and it’s likely having wayyy more negative impact on your life/health/body/choices than you realize. Release the standards, the ‘made-up’ rules, and start to just notice or love on other peoples’ bodies instead of comparing or judging them.
You Focus on the Negative
The fastest way to get what you don’t want is by focusing on what you don’t want. When reality does not match your thoughts or perceptions, your brain will do everything it can to resolve the inconsistency. So focus on what you DO want, on everything (big and small) you’re happy with – NOT what you don’t like and are unhappy with. You have the power to decide to listen to the negative, or change the station of your internal thoughts to whatever you want. Change your thoughts, and you change your life.
Happiness is a package deal. When one thing goes wrong, it seems to create a domino effect and takes your whole life with it. If you’re unhappy with one area of your life, it can be second nature for your brain to project it on your body. For example, when I find myself thinking negatively about my body, 9 times out of 10 I can trace it back to something else in my life I’m unhappy with…or stressed, anxious, or feel out of control with. By shining the light on this deeper cause, we’re able to separate it from our body and address the real issue.
Scale Let Down
Do you weigh yourself each morning? If so, it’s common to get SO caught up in the number and subconsciously let your feelings about the number dictate your thoughts about yourself, how you feel (self-image/confidence), which then negatively impacts your actions. The number you see fuels that little voice in the back of your head, your inner mean girl, that tells you you’re fat or not worthy, and tells you nothing about how beautiful and healthy you are. The fix here is easy ladies – ditch the scale! Start your day with something positive and upliving like a gratitude practice.
After scrolling on social media, have you ever felt envious, fat, weak, unluckly, jealous, angry, frustrated, or sad? Most people post their most shiny, happy, glamorous, mega-photoshopped moments. Comparing your life to someone else’s highlight reel is a recipe for unhappiness, as is comparing your body to others. We’re not all supposed to look the same. We’re all perfectly imperfect. Change your environment to match your goals. Destroy, get rid of, de-friend, unfollow anything or anyone that gives you the slightest pang of insecurity or makes you feel you need to improve your body’s appearance to be as happy as they appear
We all have those “I hate my body moments.” I’m not here to say they will never go away. BUT they can happen WAY less often, and have WAY less of an impact on your life when they do pop up here and there.
This is hard! It takes time, consistency, patience, self-compassion, but it’s so worth it. We take care of what we love and respect, and what’s important to us. Make your body one of those things. Love your body, and it’ll love you back!!
If you want to start silencing your inner mean girl and learn more about how this might be keeping you stuck (feeling the need for accountability, motivation, and to ‘just work harder!’) check out my free 5 Day Challenge: www.healthyeaton.com/5daychallenge